all the things she was before…

I’m starting to enter my bed with trepidation around this time, now.
It’s new.
And old.

Laying in bed at night, in the bashful darkness, thinking all the thoughts you shouldn’t believe.

Years ago, I dated a guy; we’d get ready for bed while sharing our days.
We’d read our books side by side.
We’d be together.
We’d sleep.

It was something I’d never experienced.
That type of intimacy.
It’s something I’ve yet to experience again.

I gave him too much of me.
I always do.

Sometimes I think about if I could take you, who you are, and put you somewhere else.
Where you had never fallen in love with someone.
Never became famous.
Where you lived a normal life.
But still you.
Then, we’d meet.

It’s getting easier.
I guess.
This happens every few years.
I fall, again.

But you can never escape the walls you’ve built until you abandon what you’ve spent a lifetime building.

I hope to teach myself everything I’ve never learned.
About happiness.

…she isn’t now

side effects

Prozac. Wellbutrin. Effexor. Celexa. Zoloft. Viibryd. Diazepam. Trazodone.

Sometimes I would think about hitting the median. Driving 80 mph. What if I just pulled the wheel to the left. I’m going so fast. It would happen so fast. Just to shake things up. Just to feel different.

I was on new meds, still being tested at the time. My doctor told me he had a good success rate. The Zoloft wasn’t working. I had hit a wall at 200 mg. He couldn’t give me a higher dose. It wasn’t working. After two years I had hit a wall.

Off drugs and taking my medication I was still sick. I was sick. It wasn’t the drugs, it was me. All those years, it wasn’t the drugs it was me. I was sick. The new meds were strong. Too strong. They kept me awake at night. The lack of sleep was making me feel crazy. I remember driving home one day from work thinking “they need to commit me”. I was crying but had no idea. Tears were streaming down my face, but there was no emotion behind them. I thought, “they need to lock me up”, “I need to be locked away”. I wanted to wreck. I needed to get the home. I needed to get out of that car.

I made an appointment with my psychiatrist, told him I couldn’t take the new medication anymore. He told me three more months, I needed to stay on the new drugs for three more months. I needed to be on them for six. It had already been three. Three more months. Can I do three more months of this? Can I do three more months of this without killing myself? Can I? He told me not to take them after 4 p.m. and to only take them with a large meal. That didn’t leave many options. Can I do this? I have to. He has the notepad. If I don’t get these drugs I won’t have any. I had been off meds before and wanted to die. I cannot be off meds.

My first stretch without antidepressants was at age twenty. I had come home from being kicked out of college and stopped taking my Prozac.

I’d been on Prozac since seventeen. It wasn’t my choice, though. It was my mother’s. After finding I cut both my wrists she sent me to a psychologist who put me on medication. I didn’t always take them. She would watch me. She would look under my tongue. Sometimes I’d make myself throw up when she left. Sometimes I’d hide them between the mattress and the bed frame. I was a teenager and didn’t want to be on medication. One argument led to her forcing the pills down my throat. After that I either took them or hid them. I lied. I lied about taking them.

I came home from college to clean up my act, but I had also come home with an addiction. Leaving school was supposed to help me, coming back to my hometown didn’t. Drugs were everywhere. I knew everyone. They were cheap and easy to get.

The general practitioner I saw back home was the first person I confided in. I told her I did cocaine. She asked how often and I said no less than four times a week. She told me I had a problem. But I was twenty and there was nothing she could do. She told me I could die, I told her I knew. I wasn’t seeing a therapist at the time and felt comfortable with her. Every few weeks I’d end up in her office sick. I was sick often when on drugs. She would ask if I was still using and I would say yes.

One day I came into her office not because I was sick, but because I had to tell her something. I had to tell someone. I had to tell someone I wanted to die. I wanted to kill myself. I was going to kill myself. She asked if I had hurt myself in anyway yet. I said no. She asked if I had a plan. I said yes. We talked candidly. Said she wouldn’t have me committed, that she couldn’t. I told her about not taking my Prozac. She asked how I had done on antidepressants. I told her I had always fantasized about ending my life, but it was just a fantasy. Until now. She wrote me a script for Celexa.

I don’t feel this way anymore. But when I bring myself back to the way I once was it scares me. That was me. That is me.

Taking medication doesn’t make you someone you’re not, it makes you who you’re supposed to be.

I hope you’ll wander with me.

I haven’t written a blog in a long time because instead of writing about my life I was finally living it.

When I started this blog I was sitting at a desk doing a job I couldn’t stand. Rather than do work I’d write funny stories of the ridiculous shenanigans that went on at my workplace.
Then I found myself only happy when writing those stories. Stories I wrote in this blog were making fun of our awkward day to day life and interactions, they made me laugh and I hope they made you laugh as well. However, during that time I was very, very depressed.  I have always suffered from depression, I don’t remember a time in my life when I wasn’t struggling with it.
I’d like to continue writing again and blogging here.  But I’m going to write things I have only shared with my journal. Sure, I’ll write about my comedy life in Chicago, my current life in L.A, and there will be funny stories, but I’d also like to share the quiet madness I went through and still battle with.
I hope you’ll wander with me.

sometimes two for one just isn’t worth it

I needed toothpaste; I neglected to pick some up on my way home from work the night before.   All I needed was toothpaste.   So I peeled myself out of bed, threw on some yoga pants and headed out.

After only thirty minutes in Target I walked to the checkout line with toothpaste, pizza and my first pair of Spanx, in hand.

Cashier: “Register One! Register One! I can take you at Register One!”

I slink over to register one with no makeup, no coffee in my system and having not yet brushed my teeth.

The cashier starts ringing me up, toothpaste first, then…

Cashier: “Spanx! Girl, what do YOU need Spanx for?! With your little ole waist! HA! HA! HA!”

Me: “Yeah, um, I just thought they’d help my core. You know, when you suck it in it, uh, tightens your abs… and stuff.” I said very quietly and under my breath, not sure why I felt the need to explain my purchase to her.

Casher: “Red Baron Pizza?! This is on special! Two for one! Do you want to get another one?!”

Me: “Um, do I have to go get it?”

Cashier: “Uh, YA YOU WANNA GET IT! HA! HA! HA!”

Me: “No, I mean do I need to go and –“

The cashier then pulls out a walkie-talkie in full police mode…




I wanted to melt into the scuffed tile floor and disappear for eternity. I avoided eye contact with the two patrons in line behind me.

Me: “If it’s a lot of trouble, I don’t need two pizzas.”

Cashier: “Girl! Two for one!”

Oh dear God…. She didn’t even bother putting the Spanx in a bag yet. So there I was, standing in line at Target with un-brushed teeth, no caffeine in my system and a pair of Spanx sprawled out for the world to see, all while waiting for my SECOND Red Baron thin crust pepperoni pizza to arrive.

Demetri arrives with my pizza and the worst is over, I assume…

Cashier: “Did you want to apply for a Target card today and save 10 percent?!”

Me: “No thanks.”

Cashier: “Are you sure!? YOU SAVE TEN PERCENT!”

Me: “I’m good.”

Cashier: “You would practically pay nothing today!”

Me: “Look! I had a target card in 2008 and maxed it out! It took me a year and a half to pay off! I DO NOT WANT ANOTHER TARGET CARD.”

Cashier: “Ok. Have a great day.”


Sometimes two for one just isn’t worth it.

35% of Online Dates End in Marriage, 65% End in Cats

In your early twenties women put up with a lot of shit from men, Correction: boys. However, the older you get the less stuff you’re willing to deal with. This is why I’m a big proponent of waiting till you’re older to get into serious relationships. People grow, they change and sometimes they grow in different directions. But hey, some beat the odds. I’m not saying all relationships that begin in those vital years, early twenties, when you’re figuring out who you are, will end in flames. However, I am saying statistically you’re screwed. Here’s an idea…be happy being alone. Embrace that shit. Love it; swim in the freedom that is single-dom. Because when you do get married, and possibly have children, you will never be alone again. You will never have the whole bed to yourself or be able to take a shit without having to yell through the bathroom door that ‘mommy is busy!’ or ‘the cereal is behind the peanut butter in the pantry if you’d just look!’

This came to surface the other day. There’s a Starbucks around the corner from my house that I frequent. I went in to catch a latte before work and write a little while waiting for the bus.

I come in and lean on the counter…

Me: “Can I get a caramel flan latte please?”

Starbucks guy: “Would you like an extra shot of espresso?”

Me: “Sure.”

Starbucks guy: “Looks like you could use it.”


I look up at him like, ‘are you saying I look tired because this concealer has caffeine in it for puffiness’.


Starbucks guy: “Oh, not because you look bad or anything, just because you leaned on the counter like you’re tired.”

Me: “Oh, yeah I’m headed to work, going to be a long night.”


I pull out my wallet to pay…


Starbucks guy: “Oh, you’re from Texas? Where at? I’m from San Antonio.”

Me: “I’m from Galveston.”

Starbucks guy: “Ah man, we used to go there all the time growing up. I love the beach and the weather was always so nice with the breeze off the Gulf.”


It was really nice to meet someone who appreciated the richness of my hometown. Not everyone has heard of it, but those who have usually connect Galveston with the hurricane that wiped-out our entire city or the New York Times article entitled, “For Poor, Leap to College Often Ends in Hard Fall”. So it was nice to hear he had good memories there, because so do I. He also became instantly more attractive.


Me: “Yeah, I know. I should be there. Sick of the weather here.”

Starbucks guy: “How long since you’ve been back?”

Me: “Oh, not long, I just moved here.”

Starbucks guy: “Oh really? How – “


An older, mentally challenged man behind me interrupted our conversation.


Man in line: “I I I, coffee. JUST a coffee. Black. Sugar. BLACK!”


I moved to a table, set my stuff down, grabbed my coffee and settled in to do some writing. I wasn’t there long, maybe fifteen minutes. When I saw the bus coming, I gathered my things and started to walk out, but not before looking back, and found he was watching me leave.

It’s a hard feeling to explain. A connection with a stranger that was unanticipated. It wasn’t a setup, we weren’t drinking at a bar, no one swiped right or left on Tinder, it was a natural connection between two people. Gave me a little bit of a high, or maybe a hint of hope that all in the dating world has not been lost. Dating, now, is so unnatural and impersonal. With the click of a button we can learn a persons life story before ever meeting them. With the swipe of a screen we can choose who’s attractive and who doesn’t meet our standards. There’s no mystery anymore.


This is the world we’re living in:

#1) “I have a friend you should go out with.”

#2) “OK, but not before I’ve checked their LinkedIn to make sure they have a decent job, seen at least twenty photos on Facebook, and exchanged two days worth of text messages.”


I choose to not know anything about the person nowadays, because honestly, I don’t care. At this age, I don’t. True, in my early twenties, I wanted to know as much about that person as possible before we ever met. But you know what that does? It creates a preconceived notion of who someone is; it also sets expectations way too high. So in essence, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment before we ever set foot out the door.

Back to Starbucks and my possible Craigslist misconnection ad. For the rest of the night I kept thinking about that brief encounter. I kept reflecting back on the short stare we held. Not because I wanted to date this guy, but because I’d like to have that feeling again. I had forgotten it even existed.

The next day I woke up and went to Starbucks, as usual. I didn’t even think about running into that guy again. When I got there I ordered my regular.


Clerk: “That will be $4.88.”


Before I placed my cash on the counter the Starbucks guy from yesterday turned around. Then I remembered our encounter.


Starbucks guy: “Texas, right?”

Me: “Yeah.”

Starbucks: “A girl came in here earlier and I thought it was you, but she had no idea what Galveston was.”

Me: “Oh, yeah. I come in here too often.”

Starbucks guy: “You don’t come in here enough.”


I grabbed my coffee and settled in to do some writing. I started wondering if he’d come over. I started to wonder if I should go talk to him. After over an hour of writing at Starbucks, it was time to pack up and leave. So I did.

He never came over. I thought, maybe I should have given him my number. I thought, maybe he was just shy. But then I started to realize something…. I didn’t want to give someone my number; I wanted to be asked. I also realized I wasn’t interested in someone who was too shy to come over and say “hello.” I realized I’m too old for this shit. I spent too many years playing games and I’m tired. I’d rather eat a good meal with a friend or see The Wolf on Wall Street alone with my Milk Duds, than check my phone a hundred times to see if a guy has called.

You won’t find me on Tinder,, Eharmony, or Plenty of Fish. I’ll be at the Starbucks on Sheridan and North Broadway writing and sipping a caramel flan latte… alone and in complete bliss.




what’s your blood?

Me: “Oh shit…I left my keys inside the apartment.”

Leaving keys in your house in Chicago is much different from leaving them in your house in Texas. In Texas, I could call a friend, who has a spare, or break-in through the window because I actually have experience in that.  However, in Chicago, there is no friend or first floor window.  There is a mid- rise, two locked doors and three deadbolts.

After realizing my mistake, I calmly called The Super, Emir.  Emir is from Russia or the Middle East, I have no clue, but he’s in his late 20’s, has a thick accent and looks like a daddy long legs.

Me: “Hi Emir, this is Ashley from unit 678. I left my keys in the apartment. How do we handle this?”

Emir: “You lock your keys, ah?”

Me: “No, I left them inside. I was running late to work. How do I get back in?”

Emir: “Well, it’s forty dollar charge after hours 8 to 5.”

Me: “Really, Emir?”

Emir: “It’s a the tenants responsibility to – “

Me: “I’m usually very responsible. Ok, ok, so how will I get in?”

Emir: “When you get off of the work?”

Me: “I will do my best to be there before 10:00 p.m.”

Emir: “Eh, I see you then.”

Great…Now, Emir is a great Super and I’m pretty sure if I had to take him I could, but I don’t like the idea of any strange foreign man in my apartment at 10 p.m. 

I get off work early and race home.

Me: “Hi Emir, I’m outside the building.”

Emir comes slinking out through the first door, then the second. 

In the elevator Emir pulls out a few sets of gold keys.

Emir: “You lock the door knob lock.”

Me: “Yeah, I was in a rush so I just locked the bottom lock. Should be pretty easy to get in. Just one key to worry about.”

Emir: “You see these gold keys? I don’t have the silver. Your bottom lock silver?”

Oh God, I’m going to have to sleep on Emir’s couch.

Me: “What are you saying, Emir?”

Elevator opens.

Emir: “Maybe it’s in safe, but I have no silver.”

We walk towards my apartment door.

Emir: “See I have gold to all deadbolts.”

Me: “Well, shit, Emir. What are we going to do?”

Emir: “I just do THis.”

Emir takes out his wallet and pulls out a credit card.

Emir: “I do this a few times.”

With a Mastercard and a push, Emir opens my large, 1930’s solid wooden door that weighs more than him.

Me: “Well…. That was easy.”

We both walk in my apartment, which I was not expecting, but hey, Emir has unclogged my toilet before, I’m sure he feels at home here now.

Me: “OK, let me get my checkbook.”

I get checkbook from desk and walk back to Emir.

Me: “Who do I make it out to?”

Emir: “Me.”

Me: “Ok, what’s your last name?”

Emir: “DelamuviK”

Me: “How do you spell that?”

Emir: “Delemovic. It’s Bosnian.”

Me: “Oh, OK.”

Emir: “Where are you from?”

Me: “Texas.”

Emir: “No, where is your family from?”

Me: “Galveston, Texas.”

Emir: “No, no what’s your blood?”

My first thought was, B negative.

Me: “OH, umm it’s Italian. I’m Italian.”

Emir: “Ah, yes. You are dark features.”

Me: “OK, well thanks a million Emir.”

Emir: “You let me make a copy of that silver key sometime for safe keeping, OK?”

Ok, is Emir hitting on me in a “I’m gonna break-in while you’re sleeping way” or does he genuinely need a copy of this key? 

Me: “You bet.”

Emir: “Have a good night.”

Me: “You too.”


Lessons learned:

1)Always, ALWAYS lock every lock you have, they are there for a reason.  That reason is the world is a scary and unpredictable place.

2)Make a friend.  I need to make a friend in Chicago to keep an extra set of keys for me.

3) If a foreigner asks what your blood is, there’s a good possibility he’s a vampire.

endless pancakes

I frequent IHOP for many reasons.  It reminds me of home.  It’s right down the street.  They always give me a booth and for some reason I’m able to write and be creative there. Also, they have endless pancakes. Pancakes are my favorite of the food groups. I love breakfast and I love dessert, pancakes bring those two together.

I went in the other day, as usual, and got the same waitress I accidentally stiffed the week before.  I didn’t mean to not tip her the previous week, I genuinely forgot.  But by the time I realized what I had done, I was home. So, this is how it went…

Waitress walks up to the table and before she can even take my drink order I blurt out,

Me: “Is your name Allison?”

Without even looking at me or hesitating she simply replied with a limp,

Allison: “Yes.”  And continued to set the ketchup and hot sauce down as if complete strangers walk into her job everyday and know her name.

Then, I verbally threw up all over the table.

Me: “I forgot to tip you.  The other week.  I forgot.  I’m really sorry it was an honest mistake.  I went to the register to pay and then forgot to come back and place cash on the table.”

Allison: “It happens. Can I get you something to drink?”

That’s it? ‘It happens?’ I’m not sure what I was expecting, maybe “Oh don’t worry about it, and people come through here all the time.” Or “Oh my gosh, really?”  Something. Allison seemed almost sedated.

After she took my order I began to mentally brain-fuck myself.

In my head, ‘Why did I say anything? Now I have to double tip. Do I have to double tip? What if I don’t double tip and she serves me again? Oh God, what if Allison has six kids at home depending on this tip money.  Maybe her mother is wheelchair bound and Allison is her only source of income. But I’m poor too.  I’m a starving artist! She seems so tired, she probably works three jobs and sends her tip money back home to a foreign country to help her family gain freedom. But I’m so broke. Can I afford to double tip her? Is it rude if I don’t?!”

I could barely enjoy my whole wheat banana pancakes, let alone write anything.  And then it hit me, two little words, Endless. Pancakes.

I tipped double.  Haven’t seen Allison since.  Maybe my tip finally helped her reach family in Central America.

so this is what love feels like...

a line away

Awhile back I went to an N.A. meeting, just to go, I wasn’t itching or anything. I had found one near my house and went from time to time.

Sitting in that room, years clean, listening to all those poor bastard’s sob stories. I felt so far away from them. I couldn’t relate. I was so far away. They were addicts. When it came my turn to speak I preached about “wanting to get sober” and “being stronger than the drug… being stronger than you are today…” I talked about God and having faith, how He will bring you where you are supposed to be. We all have choices and I choose to be clean.

When I left class that night I remember thinking how I should be the one teaching N.A. I was an example. I was a success story. I was clean. I was so far away from those people. I was so different. I was stronger. We were years and lives away from one another.

That was a Monday.

The whole week I was on some sort of high. I felt so good about myself. I didn’t need N.A. I was different from those people.

I relapsed that Friday. At a party, I had one too many drinks. I should have never been at that party, with those people. I knew better. They were from my past. They were users. I think somewhere deep inside of me I wanted to test myself. I wanted to use again. I wanted to see if I would. I guess it was self-sabotage in a way.

I was up for two days. When the drugs ran out and I finally went home I felt ashamed. I wanted to cut myself. I wanted to cry. I hated myself. It was rock bottom all over again.

Monday night came and I went to N.A. again. I didn’t share the fact that I had relapsed, but I didn’t need to. They knew. I wasn’t smiling like before. I wasn’t talkative or willing to converse or participate. I sat there and listened. This time I actually heard “these people”. Before, I was listening, but I wasn’t hearing them. There was one guy that frustrated the shit out of me. He was a heroin user. Every Monday he would come to class and every Monday he had relapsed. It used to piss me off so much. I didn’t understand why he couldn’t stop. He had a wonderful family, a loving partner; he was handsome and creative. Why was he such a fuck up? But that Monday I cried when he spoke. It was the first time I had ever cried at a meeting. Maybe it was the lack of sleep or I was still coming down from the drugs, but I heard him. And I finally understood him. And I cried for him. I cried for me. I cried because I knew he and I were not so different. That these people and this life was not so far away.

I haven’t used since, but I know now I’m not cured, that there’s no such thing when it comes to addiction. Every day I have to choose not to use. Every day I have to remember that Hell is just a line away and death isn’t much farther.

you’ve gotta be killing me

I’ve successfully avoided slipping and falling on snow and ice since moving to Chicago.  However, that record ended last night.

While getting out of a cab when returning home, one foot started to slide, and then the other; I held onto the door, which I also slowly slid down.  With my huge coat, backpack, purse, gloves, hat, scarf and anything else you can image having to wear in below zero temperatures, I landed directly on my back.  Picture the movie A Christmas Story when Ralphie’s little brother, Randy, falls in the snow and can’t get up. That was me.

“Oh, I got it, I got it.” I said to the cab driver as if he cared.  He basically drove off while I was still lying in the street.


What time is it?  Last night was my first night out in Chicago. Good times. Thank god I don’t have a day job.

I casually check my phone, as normal, its 11:26 a.m.  Lying in bed, I scroll through text messages, check emails, oh, there’s a voicemail.

Voicemail: In a sweet southern accent “Hi, Ashley?  This is Gail from Dr. Smith’s office in North Houston.  We received a called from a gentleman in Chicago saying he has your wallet?  Please give me a call back.”

What? She must be mistaken. Wait, what? My wallet is in my purse.  

Check purse, not there. Check coat pockets, not there. Check backpack, not there.  SHIT! I barely leave the house, how could I have lost my wallet?

I call Gail back.

Me: Hi Gail?

Gail: Yeahs.

Me: Hi, this is Ashley Byrd. I received a message from you?

Gail: Oh hey, yeah, a man called claiming he has your wallet in Chicago!? HA! HA! HA!

Me: Oh, yeah, I live in Chicago now. I told your office.

Gail: Oh. You do? That’s great! You know, my husband and I went there in the summer of ‘73.

Me: No, I didn’t know that. Gail, did he give you his name or number?

Gail: Oh, yes, he said is name was Dormo.

Me: Dormo?   I must have left it in a cab last night…? Dormo?  Sounds like a cabbies name.

Gail: That’s what it sounded like, Door-MO.  It was hard to understand him. He had one of those foreign accents.  Sounded maybe Spanish, but not Spanish enough to be Spanish.  Maybe like a Hispanic country with a Spanish-like sound. 

Me: OK, number Gail, number.

Gail: Oh, yeah. 555-734-0987. Do-mo.  So I guess you have one of Dr. Smith’s scripts in your wallet? Because the guy called here, yeah know.

Me: Yeah, I know.

Gail: So you live in Chicago? How ‘bout that weather, huh?  HA! HA! HA!

Me: Got to go Gail, THANKS.

Must get wallet, NOW.  What the hell! How did this happen?  I’m a responsible adult!

I call Dormo.

Stranger in a thick Russian accent: hEllo, 326 Lakeview. Tis is Vadim

Me: Hi, um is a gentleman named Door-mo there?

Russian: DoMo?

Me: OK, yes, Domo, Do-mo, DO-mO.  Is he there?

Russian: Domo is out on an uh errand.  You uh call back, OK?

Me: No, hey! My wallet! I think your “establishment” has my wallet.

Russian: Wallet?

Me: YES, wallet. Can you check?

Russian: Uh, excuse meh.

He meant hold. Now I’m sweating bullets, not only because I’m freaking out but because I’m pretty hung over.

Russian: Youruh name?

Me: Ashley Byrd, there should be a Texas divers license in the wallet.

Russian: Eh, yes. You can come get.

Me: You have it?! Thank you! What’s the address?

Russian: 326 Lakeview

Me: I will be there shortly!

I Google Map 326 Lakeview.  It’s exactly a two-minute walk from my house.  What? It’s less than half a mile from my apartment complex.  Wow, I had no idea there was a cab company that close.

I don’t even brush my hair or teeth. I immediately leave the house, slightly hungover, no makeup and pajamas on.  My only objective is to get that wallet, not meet a man.  Besides, once I pick my wallet up I’ll never have to see those people again.

I arrive at 326 Lakeview in less than a minute.

It looks like an old hotel or maybe an apartment complex not in use?  This is not a cab company. Then I remember falling out of the cab in front of my apartment building.  Someone must have found my wallet on the street where I fell.

Walking in, there are several men standing around construction being done in the lobby.

Me: Um, hi.  My name is Ashley; I called about a wallet I was told is here?

Russian: Ah, yes.

He gets on the phone, speaks in some secret code, or maybe it’s just Russian, I DON’T KNOW, WHERE’S MY WALLET.

Russian: Eh, excuse me.

The Russian walks to the back.  I stand there in my pajamas with pillow lines on my face while a group of Russians argue over tile, I think.  He comes back, there’s an old woman looking from behind the door at me.

Russian: What eh color is dis wallet.

Me: Teal

He gives me a weird look.

Me: It’s blue. No, green. Blue-ish green-ish. Look, my license, you know, photo id, is in there.

He looks at the woman, then at me, he nods at her and she hands it to him through the cracked door.

What the hell is going on? Jesus, I’ll be glad to get out of this place and never come back!

When he hands me my wallet I look through it quickly, making sure everything is there.  Indeed, my id, credit cards and St. Jude prayer card are untouched.  However, twenty dollars and a fist full of change for laundry are gone.  But I don’t say anything, the most important stuff is there and I need to get the hell out of this place.  I quickly leave, walking out the door as I say goodbye and thank you.

YES! I have my wallet! The nightmare is over!!!

Since I’m already out in the cold, might as well catch a Starbucks.

I’m now calm, cool, and collected.  With a caramel flan latte in hand, I wobble back into my apartment.  Before I can even sit-down, the phone rings.

Me: Hello?

Caller, in a thick Arab accent: May I speak to a Ms. Byrd.

Me: This is she.

Caller:  Hello a Ms. Byrd. This is Mohammad from Capitol One.  We have received a call that someone has recovered your credit card.


I race over to my wallet.  My Capitol One card isn’t there.

Caller: Hello a Ms. Byrd.  I have gentleman on phone has your Capitol One card. I will place you both on call.

Caller: Hello a Sir.  Hello a Ms. Byrd.  This is Mohammad with Capitol One-

I’m taking this conversation over.

Me: Sir. Sir. You have my card?!

Third party caller: I du.

Me: Was it at Starbucks?!

Third party caller: Eh, no.

Me: Please give me the address to where you are and I will be there right away!

Third party caller: You eh, need to come back to where your wallet was.


Russian: Vadim.


It seems while quickly checking my wallet I dropped my credit card.

Capitol One guy: Hi a Ms. Byrd.  We can cancel your card.

Me: NO! I am going to get my card RIGHT NOW! Every one hold tight!

I throw down the latte; swing my 10-pound coat back over my shoulders and race to the hotel apartment organized crime place I was at earlier.  The Russian is waiting at the door for me.

Russian: Bad day eh?

Hands me my credit card.           

Me: Yeah. Thanks.

I’ve gotta get a day job.

the nightmare before Chicago

I needed a change: from my job, from my daily routine, from my life.  Following weeks and months of self-loathing, it was time to make a move.

After visiting Los Angeles, New York and Chicago, I decided Chicago was the place for me.  More specifically, a school called The Second City.

So I sold everything I owned, fit my life into a suitcase and bought a one-way ticket to Chicago.

Prior to leaving Texas, I checked my flight status every day.  With a short layover in Charlotte, North Carolina, I was due to arrive in Chicago on January 6th.

FRIDAY January 3, 2014

Flight 2096 Houston to Charlotte – ON TIME

Flight 1897 Charlotte to Chicago – ON TIME

SATURDAY January 4, 2014

Flight 2096 Houston to Charlotte – ON TIME

Flight 1897 Charlotte to Chicago – ON TIME

SUNDAY January 5, 2014

Flight 2096 Houston to Charlotte – ON TIME

Flight 1897 Charlotte to Chicago – ON TIME

MONDAY January 6, 2014 – DEPARTURE DAY

 5:00 a.m.

Flight 2096 Houston to Charlotte – ON TIME

Flight 1897 Charlotte to Chicago – ON TIME

6:00 a.m.

Flight 2096 Houston to Charlotte – ON TIME

Flight 1897 Charlotte to Chicago – ON TIME

I arrived at Houston Intercontinental Airport at 8:00 a.m. with a one-way ticket to the rest of my life.

8:00 a.m. – Bag Check

Airport Clerk: “Good morning.”

Me: “Hi, good morning.”

Airport Clerk: “Traveling to Chicago, one bag, correct?”

Me: “Yes, ma’am.”

In a whisper I say, “Do you think I’m going to make it?” It was a loaded question.

Airport Clerk: “To Chicago?” checks screen “Well, flights are still coming and going from there, the airport is open. I think you’ll be fine.”

Her words didn’t comfort me much and she could tell.

Airport Clerk: “You’ll make it, honey. “


Getting off my fight from Houston landing in Charlotte, I walked into a sea of people.  I pushed my way to the board everyone seemed to be staring at in disbelief:

1:00 p.m. – Flight 2782 Charlotte to Chicago – CANCELLED

1:55 p.m. – Flight 1924 Charlotte to Chicago – CANCELLED

2:20 p.m. – Flight 1897 Charlotte to Chicago – CANCELLED

4:15 p.m. – Flight 3219 Charlotte to Chicago – CANCELLED

5:55 p.m. – Flight 1253 Charlotte to Chicago – CANCELLED

8: 15 p.m. – Flight 2354 Charlotte to Chicago – CANCELLED

9: 20 p.m. – Flight 1484 Charlotte to Chicago – CANCELLED

All flights to the Midwest had been cancelled.

Standing in the customer service line, with three hundred other people, a TV was playing the news a few feet away.

News Anchor Jake Tapper: “This is the worst winter the Midwest has seen (pause) in twenty years.  It’s been called (pause) a Polar Vortex.   It is now one degree colder in Chicago (pause) than the North Pole.  Years from now people will say how cold it is, (pause) but not as cold as the winter (pause) of January 2014.”

OK, I’m from the South, never seen more than an inch of snow and that was in 2006.  What was I getting myself into?  I did my best to stay calm, cool and collected.  Surely, this was the worst of it.  I’ll stay in Charlotte a day and be on the next fight to Chicago in the morning.  Be calm, be clam, be calm.  Polar (pause) Vortex?

After what seemed like an eternity, in line, I meet with a Charlotte US Airways representative.

US Airways Rep: “Hii thera ma’am. How can we help you?”

Me: “Um, hi, my flight to Chicago was cancelled.”

US Airways Rep: “OOH well let me a see what we have hera. Oh, ma’am. All flights have to Chicago have been a cancelled.”

Me: “Yeah, I noticed.  I need the next flight out, please.”

Rep: “Lets see a hera.  Looks like the next fight out to Chicago will be Thursday.”

Me: “WHAT? That’s three days from now!”

Rep: “Yeeeeaahhhh. You’re welcome to wait standby.”

Me: “For three days?”

Rep: “I tell you whaaat. Let’s get you a hotel voucher and you can call and see if anything opens up.”

Me: “For three days?”

Rep: “Well, ma’am lots of fliiights were cancelled, so those who were cancelled before yours will get the next fliiights.”

I did my best to hold back tears.

Me: “I understand.”

Rep: “Allll right then.  NEXT!”

The airline hooks me up with a hotel near the airport in Charlotte.  A shuttle comes to pick me up.

Shuttle Driver, DeWayne: “What happened to your nose?”

Not having the strength to explain my cartilage had collapsed and I recently had minor surgery…

Me: “I scratched it.”

DeWayne: “Man, these people better hurry up.  Shooot, I’m gone.”

DeWayne: “You don’t got no bags?”

Me: “I have no idea where my luggage is.”

DeWayne: “Had a lady the other day, same thing.  Took her to the dollar store to get pajamas and panties.”

Did he just say panties?

Me: “Oh, um, that was nice of you.”

DeWayne: “Asked why she didn’t just sleep naked, but she said not insa hotel room.”

Me: “Ah, uh.”

I couldn’t tell if this guy wanted to rape me or rob me. 

We arrive at the hotel.

I walked into the hotel “lobby” and there was a guy standing eating a box of KFC fried chicken.  Approaching the “front desk” the “clerk” was on her phone.  As I waited for her to acknowledge me, I started to look around.  The fried chicken guy got in the elevator.  Another girl seem to be waiting for a ride and yelling at someone on the phone.  Then, the fried chicken guy got off the elevator and just stood in the lobby, again.  After thirty minutes of checking me in I walked to my room.  As I entered I could smell stale cigarettes from days past. The bathroom looked like it had been bleached after a murder scene. I sat there not knowing what to do.  So I left.  I walked back to the girl at the front desk who was holding a Newport cigarette in her hand with a tattoo that read “Joe” in cursive on her wrist.

Me: “I need to go.”

Front Desk Girl: “You wanna cab? You need to goes somewhere?”

Me: “I want a cab and I want another hotel.”

I couldn’t think of a lie, I just needed out. Fuck her.

Girl: “Whhhy?”

Me: “Can you call me a cab?  I also need that voucher back.”

Girl: “Well, Ima havta call my manager.”

The fried chicken guy gets on the elevator again.

Me: “That’s fine. Please call me a cab.”

Girl: “Whhy you wanna leave?”

Me: “I don’t feel comfortable here.”

The friend chicken guy gets off the elevator, again.

Girl: “Really? Whhhy?”

Me: “Keep the voucher, just call me a cab.”

Girl: “You sure?”

Me: “Uh, yeah.”

The smell of bleach was making me sick.  I waited for the cab outside.

When I arrived at my new hotel, I call a friend and tell them of my troubles.

Friend: “Well, look at it this way, it can’t get any worse.”

Me: “You’re right.”

The Next Morning, Tuesday

7: 25 a.m.


Me: “Well, it just got worse.”

Friend: “Huh?”

Me: “The hotels on fire.”

Friend: “Wha, what?”

Me: “We’re evacuating, got to call you back.”

Firefighters showed up, I have no idea what actually happened, but I was able to go back to sleep shortly after.


I arrived in Chicago, not knowing where there hell my luggage was.  I had been wearing the same clothes since Monday. I was tired, I was defeated, I was over it.  It took an hour, but there it was, my luggage, my life, my life I had fit into a suitcase.

The cab ride to my new apartment in Chicago was surreal. I had never seen snow. Not like this. It was like a movie. Everything was covered in a blanket of white. I had made it, so far.

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